What is a dildo and how do I use it?

What is a dildo and how do I use it?

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The history of the dildo goes back to ancient Greece, and whether you're old or young, a dildo can add some spice to your sexual experiences. Unlock the world of sexual wellness by exploring the types, safety, and more of dildos in this guide.

  • A dildo is a very popular type of sex toy.
  • You can use a dildo to increase pleasure during sex.
  • You can use a dildo for masturbation and anal play.
  • Dildos come in different shapes and sizes, textures, and some vibrate.

Dildos: FAQs

  • What's the difference between a dildo and a vibrator?

    The difference between a dildo and a vibrator is the shape. Some dildos vibrate (and can be considered a vibrator). Vibrators come in all sorts of types, such as silicone toys, penis-shaped with a harness, or even in the shape of testicles!

  • Do I need to clean a dildo after use?

    Yes, always clean your dildo or penis-shaped object after use using antibacterial soap and warm water. You might also need to disinfect the object to prevent infections in the future. Always read the instructions to ensure safe use.

  • Can I share my dildo with my partner?

    If it's made with a non-porous material and disinfected after use or used with a condom, you can share a dildo with sexual partners.

    Remember to keep lube handy as it reduces friction, lessening your risk of injury during sex.

  • Can I use a dildo for anal play?

    Yes, you can use the object for anal play.

    Never enter a dildo into the vagina, or use a dildo in someone else's anus before it's washed and disinfected. You can also use it with a condom.

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A dildo resembles a penis and is a sex toy.

Although not all dildos have the appearance of a penis, they provide a sensation similar to that of a penis during use.

Dildos can be used for sexual stimulation (e.g., two partners having sex). For example, a heterosexual couple might want a penis-shaped object to try double penetration for the woman, or the man might want to experience anal penetration while having sex to stimulate the prostate.

A dildo might also increase a woman's sexual pleasure as it can stimulate the G-spot or A-spot during vaginal penetration (which can also stimulate a man's erogenous zones).

Note that wanting to try anal or oral sex has nothing to do with your sexuality. You can be straight and enjoy anal sex. Just like oral sex, it provides a different kind of sexual stimulation.

What kind of different dildos are there?

Dildos come in all different shapes and sizes, including:

  • Double ended.
  • Strap on (the dildo is strapped on using a harness).
  • Realistic dildos (i.e., shaped like a penis).
  • Anal (shaped for anal sex, meaning it has a base so it can't disappear into your anus)
  • Vibrating dildos.
  • Bullet vibrator.

You can attach most types of dildos on a harness, which can be worn to mimic the look and feel of a real penis. You can also use some dildos for temperature play (when a dildo stimulates the body through heat and cold for a sensual effect).

What is a dildo made of?

Dildos come in different materials, including glass, plastic, silicone, and metal.

No matter which material you choose for your dildo, using it with a condom can help to keep you and any partners safe.

Caring for your dildo and how to clean it

To stay safe when using a dildo, it's crucial to clean the object well. If you share it with others, disinfect it with a sex toy cleaner and rinse it in water.

You can wash a dildo made with a non-porous material such as glass, medical grade silicone, or steel with antibacterial soap and warm water.

If the dildo is made with a porous material, like stone, you should boil it after use.

Generally, it is safe to store a dildo in a drawer or cupboard inside a bag made of lint-free fabric or a clean non-plastic container.

How is a dildo inserted?

Start small, go slow, and not too deep. The dildo should fill you, but not be so large it hurts you. Likewise, the shape of the dildo should feel comfortable, as should how you position it.

If you use a dildo anally, ensure it has a base so it can't "disappear" into your body.

Using lube (especially on the tip of the dildo) is always a good idea. Make sure it's compatible with the material of your dildo, and check the pack, as sometimes lube comes included.

Is a dildo right for me?

The decision to incorporate a dildo into your intimate sexual experiences is personal.

Whether you're looking to enhance your solo play, explore new sensations with a partner, or embrace your curiosity with a new object, a dildo can be a valuable addition to your journey of self-discovery and sexual wellness.

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Maria Montgomery
Maria Montgomery
Maria joined Age Group in 2020 and specialises in content around dating and mental wellbeing. She has lived in seven different countries, has an entrepreneurial streak and is the owner of Magique and That Woman Is A Woman Productions. Her blog, Confessions of a Dizzy Blonde, offers her life learnings, sprinkled with a large dose of humour…and sex!