DateMyAge is a dating platform for singles over 40 looking to find love. While it often says the site is for mature singles, younger people looking to date those older than them are also welcome to sign up.
DateMyAge in a nutshell
It's a global dating site available in many countries and is essentially a subsidiary of Dating.com, specifically for older daters.
The site is aimed at people seeking serious relationships rather than casual dating.
The target market for DateMyAge is people who don't consider themselves old just because they're over 40. So expect a membership base that's young at heart.
It's not strictly a mature dating site, though. There are also many younger people on DateMyAge looking to date over 45s.
There are over 600,000 members in the US alone, according to DatingScout. Worldwide the number is in the millions. You can meet people locally and globally, and the site even encourages worldwide matches.
Both the dating site and app are modern and have great functions and sleek designs.
DateMyAge offers all the standard features you expect when dating online. You can:
- Create a profile
- Upload public and private photos
- Send and receive chat messages (DMs)
- Chat online through regular live chat
- Video chat
- Send smilies, stickers, and gifts
- Do an advanced search to find other members
- Like other people's profiles and send winks
- Message members
- Block profiles
- Use Let's Mingle, a feature that lets you send the same introduction message to several members at once
The profiles on DateMyAge are detailed enough to make them interesting, but certainly not the eHarmony or EliteSingles kind where you have to spend about an hour filling in personality tests and preferences for potential dates.
You can upload photos, fill in some basic interests and match preferences, and write a little about yourself.
You can also upload videos to your profile. You may have to pay to view other people's videos, but viewing profile photos is free.
When you first sign up and create a profile, a DateMyAge staff member will verify it. However, they don't verify your ID, just your profile.
You can like profiles, send smilies, message members, and chat with members when they're online. You can also video chat, which is perfect if you live far away from a potential match or someone you want to get to know better.
You will also receive offline messages. This means you still get messages when you aren't online, whether via email or app notifications.
In addition to messages, you can send emojis and virtual gifts, but you have to pay for the latter.
Should you not enjoy being contacted by someone, you can block them.
Note that you have to pay for premium features. A basic membership pretty much only allows you to create a profile and have a look around the site.
DateMyAge is available on both iOS and Android. It's free to download, but you will see that there are in-app purchases available.
DateMyAge has an average of four stars from about 500 people on the Apple App Store.
On Google Play, the DateMyAge app also has an average of four stars from over 19,000 people.
DateMyAge has a customer care team available via live chat, or you can call or email them.
Scams and fake profiles
While DateMyAge has previously had issues with reports of fake profiles, the site now manually verifies members, so this should constantly improve.
They also offer an AI-powered screening and moderation system, which helps keep you safe.
It would be hard for outside bots to use the site as you sign in using your email address or Google account. However, if you sign up with an empty profile to look around the site and get a ton of messages, the company probably uses bots. Unlike apps like Tinder and Bumble, you have to upgrade to a premium membership to send messages. And what some dating apps do is send you messages from bots to ensure you upgrade to a paid membership so you can reply to them. Always read the terms and conditions to see if a company uses fake profiles or bots.
The apps have great reviews, so hopefully, you won't encounter fake profiles. However, if you do, you can report them to email@example.com.
As with most dating sites, joining DateMyAge is free. You can create a profile and search for mature singles near and far. However, while you can see the messages you receive, you need to sign up to be able to write and send messages yourself.
DateMyAge is unique in that it requires a membership AND credits to use all its functions.
When you have a membership, you can use the site perfectly fine, but you can't do things like watch broadcasts (live streams) with other members. For that, you have to buy credits.
That means some people prefer to avoid the site, as they dislike paying for credits on top of membership fees.
Many people complain about dating sites as they automatically renew your current subscription without asking—you already permitted them to do so when signing up. Lucky for you, it states on the app in the App Store that DateMyAge doesn't do that. If you sign up using the website rather than the app, ensure you know what you agree to.
Tips for a better dating experience
You can do and keep in mind several things to ensure you enjoy your dating experience more on DateMyAge.
Everyone signing up for online dating services appears frightened of scammers at first. Unfortunately, they do exist, but they exist at your local bar, too. The best thing you can do is pay attention to what people are saying when you communicate with them to ensure they are who they say they are.
Here are some things to bear in mind:
- Don't hand out your home address or work address until meeting someone in person enough times to feel comfortable with them
- Video chat with someone, or meet up in real life sooner rather than later so you can confirm they look like their photos and are who they claim to be
- Don't hand out social media handles if you provide personal information on your social platforms
- Do not hand out your credit card details—if paying a bill on the first date, keep your card to yourself
- Do not offer to pay someone's bills
- Meet someone in public in an area with lots of people the first couple of times you meet up
A good rule of thumb is not to do anything you wouldn't do with someone you just met at the local bar!
Meeting online is not like meeting in real life—you don't get that good an idea of who someone is from just a photo. That's why you need more than one photo! More like five or six.
And out of those five or six photos (more if you feel like it), you have to ensure that there's one nice close-up of your face and one nice full-body shot.
Adding photos showing you in social situations and photos of you doing things you love is helpful. People get a glance at your life and what makes you happy.
Likewise, it helps to fill out that profile. Saying a few things about yourself and filling out your interests helps people determine whether they want to get to know you.
Remember to state things positively on your profile. Mention what you enjoy and want, not what you don't enjoy and don't want. For example, say that you believe in faithfulness rather than saying you don't want to date cheaters.
Real life meetings
The first time you meet someone is just that—a first meeting. It's not really a first date, as you don't know if you have chemistry yet.
I always suggest you meet someone as soon as possible to gauge whether there is real-life chemistry. Failing that, try video chatting as soon as possible. Of course, even that won't tell you if you'll like someone in real life, but at least it will give you a better idea than a phone call!
The first time you meet someone, keep it short. Grabbing a coffee is perfect. For example, framing it up as a quick meeting before you head to the gym is brilliant. Then if you discover you have nothing to talk about, you aren't sitting through a three-course meal.
If you meet someone who turns out to be dull as dishwater, challenge yourself to leave them smiling. Of course, you won't find love, or even friendship, with everyone, but you can do your best to add something to their lives instead of sitting lamenting they weren't a fit.
And that's the thing—not everyone will be a fit. Some won't even be entertaining. But then there are those you'll become friends with and others you might fall in love with!
Keep your expectations in check—you're here to meet people. Just as you join social events to meet people (and don't give up on those just because you join a dating site), it should be a fun journey of meetings, not a desperate attempt to find love.